Tales of Wonderlost
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My friend is turning 30 next week, and his best friend is throwing him a surprise party. According to her, he’s having a bit of a hard time with...
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Anonymous asked: The issue of 'patriarchy' goes beyond just beauty standards. Obviously, men are hurt by the patriarchy. If the so-called patriarchy, being a system that is built by men for men, doesn't solely benefit men, how can it be a patriarchy?
If I try to catch fish through a fishing rod sometimes I hurt myself with the fishhook (yes true story it happened) does that mean the fish are...
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Anonymous asked: *whispers* can u not tag your convos about eyk w/ their tag bc some of us would really rather see actual content than people ragging on for ages pls and thank have a good day
oh i see what you mean anon… i do apologize for keeping you and others from amazing and actual content, especially from eatyourkimchi or eyk. i felt...
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im tired of always seeing skinny white lesbians on my dash
does anyone know any good queer poc blogs i can follow :(
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brandx asked: you are both bold and sensitive and not in any way a 'failure' for your family search. i know it's hard to not internalize -the white savior complex is too pervasive with outposts in our heads- when everything we were raised by erases and actively prevents us from our roots, the wonder and the search are victories in and of themselves & proof of our survival. Oppressors don't get to make us feel weak by leaving us impossible tasks in the wake of their destruction.
ugh you are the actual best. seriously. i want to bake you a cake or make you some guacamole or knit you a sweater or something. i don’t even know.
GDYB SWOON
[vogue 2009 - letters from angels adoption campaign]
egh, i hate pictures like this - and there’s always a ton of them cropping up right about now because this friday is the government’s “adoption day”.
what most people (including these celebs who pose with babies in order to promote adoption - do you know that at one point the government was actually running commercials with children’s photos and personal info on it, like damn telecommercials? if that’s not a violation of human rights i don’t know what is) don’t know is that 90% of these children are the children of unwed mothers.
here’s another fun fact for you straight from the ministry of gender and family: in korea, out of 100 unmarried women that get pregnant 96 of them have an abortion - only four of them give birth. i think we can safely assume that those 4 women, braving strong discrimination and backlash from family, friends and society at large, had at least some inclination to raise that baby. however, out of those four women, in the end, only one will raise her baby. the other three will be forced to give up for adoption, due to no support from the father, no real legal way to pursue support from the father, discriminatory hiring practices against unwed moms that make it nearly impossible to get a job and support themselves, and little to no support from the government - unwed mothers receive 50,000 won per month, while adoptive korean families receive 100,000 won a month, clear institutional discrimination, giving preferential treatment for 2-parent adoptive families over an unwed mother raising her own child.
according to track, the government’s priorities for support are the reverse of what they should be under international human rights guidelines. the rate of support per month, per child, is as follows:
- Family group home facility: 1,070,000 won
- Child welfare facility (orphanage): 1,050,000 won
- Foster care: 250,000 won
- Domestic adoptive parents: 100,000 won
- Single parents, including unwed and divorced parents: 50,000 won (US$44)
ummmm, how about giving 1,000,000 won per month to an unwed mother to raise her child instead of the child staying in a welfare facility or group home?
this is why these photos irritate the hell out of me. i wish celebs who are looking to get some good PR wouldn’t be so short-sighted and support unwed mothers trying to raise their child.
that’s why some groups (TRACK, KUMFA and KoRoot) are advocating once again that Adoption Day be deemed Single Mom’s Day.
swoon? more like…feel sick to my stomach. cue the hate mail from the kpop fans?
