I didn’t learn I was considered light skinned until I was 13. At a family reunion, someone asked my half sister who that light skin girl was and pointed in my direction. I turned around to see who she was pointing at and I was the lightest one there.
Really like this post. It was only relatively recently that I stopped thinking of the “default human being” as white, too. It’s weird ground-shaking it feels when you realize how fucked up the very idea is (or it was for me, anyway).
as an international adoptee, i remember having a family portrait taken and realizing for the first time how different i (along with my twin sister) was from the rest of my family. i guess i always knew before that (especially at family gatherings when my uncle on my mom’s side always insisted on asking my sister and i “where can i get two little girls like you” - but that’s a whole other post all on its own), but to have photographic evidence, was kind of shocking. it was after that, i remember always preferring to go to the grocery store with my dad (who had black hair) instead of my mom (who has light brown hair), because at least from the back, i might be mistaken for his biological daughter.
You didn’t seem like you were fishing, I just wanted to give one anyway. I undertand the feeling! I remembered the day I really realized the colour of my eyes were blue instead of something else. It was strange
that’s what i’m talking about it! it’s not even about whether or not it’s good or bad, just totally threw me for a loop that my self-perception had been off-base.
I would’ve never have guessed that you’re almost 30. Early to mid 20s at most.
thanks, i’ll take it! actually, big issue and i are the same age, but he looks younger than me, so i’m always feeling like noona next to him, egh. this year, i’ll turn 30 (even in non-Korean age) and i’m already 31 in Korean age TT