Tales of Wonderlost

I'm a Korean-American adoptee living in Seoul, just finished my MA in Anthropology (yes, i took all of my classes in Korean TT). In my spare time, I volunteer at two great organizations: Korean Unwed Mothers' Families Association (KUMFA) and the Women's Global Solidarity Action Network (WGSAN) - a group that works on various issues, including with the survivors of military sexual slavery during WWII ("Comfort Women"). I also love cooking and baking and going to the noraebang ^^ To make a monthly donation to the Korean Unwed Mothers' Families Association, please click below!!
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coffeejusayo replied to your post:  soulsentwined replied to your post: was brutally…

Can I also somewhat arbitrarily add that you are one my favorite tumblrs? You’re so inspirational. When I am back in Korea and my Korean is at a better level, can I get involved in the volunteer work you are doing? I want to so badly!

yessssss, we have volunteers that speak almost no korean!! with kids, it doesn’t really matter ^^ please message me when you get here~ we will watch babies together and laugh and skip and ummmm other fun stuff? ^^

 soulsentwined replied to your postwas brutally told yesterday by big issue and my…

I didn’t learn I was considered light skinned until I was 13. At a family reunion, someone asked my half sister who that light skin girl was and pointed in my direction. I turned around to see who she was pointing at and I was the lightest one there.

 hidden-midden replied to your post2009.12.08. A revelation two years in the…

Really like this post. It was only relatively recently that I stopped thinking of the “default human being” as white, too. It’s weird ground-shaking it feels when you realize how fucked up the very idea is (or it was for me, anyway).

as an international adoptee, i remember having a family portrait taken and realizing for the first time how different i (along with my twin sister) was from the rest of my family. i guess i always knew before that (especially at family gatherings when my uncle on my mom’s side always insisted on asking my sister and i “where can i get two little girls like you” - but that’s a whole other post all on its own), but to have photographic evidence, was kind of shocking.  it was after that, i remember always preferring to go to the grocery store with my dad (who had black hair) instead of my mom (who has light brown hair), because at least from the back, i might be mistaken for his biological daughter. 

coffeejusayo replied to your post: coffeejusayo replied to your post: was brutally…

You didn’t seem like you were fishing, I just wanted to give one anyway. I undertand the feeling! I remembered the day I really realized the colour of my eyes were blue instead of something else. It was strange

that’s what i’m talking about it! it’s not even about whether or not it’s good or bad, just totally threw me for a loop that my self-perception had been off-base.

 dustoffvarnya replied to your postcoffeejusayo replied to your post: was brutally…

I would’ve never have guessed that you’re almost 30. Early to mid 20s at most.

thanks, i’ll take it! actually, big issue and i are the same age, but he looks younger than me, so i’m always feeling like noona next to him, egh. this year, i’ll turn 30 (even in non-Korean age) and i’m already 31 in Korean age TT 

b-but…but you’re so cute. and your smile is gorgeous! your lips fit your face well, so I give you a 10/10 on the beauty scale.

oooops, i swear it wasn’t meant to be a fishing for compliments kind of post… just sincerely did. not. know. 
but it’s seriously a weird feeling!! to realize something new about the face that you’ve been looking in the mirror at for almost 30 years! the last time i had this kind of revelation was about two or three years ago when i caught my reflection at the bus stop and realized for the first time in my life that i saw myself as ordinary instead of exotic.  rite of passage for an adoptee living in korea, perhaps? i actually wrote a blog about it on my old blog, should find it and re-read it.
but thanks for the nice comment ^^ even though i consciously try not be insecure about my appearance as my own form of 1-woman revolution against the patriarchal, white-centric impossible standards of beauty that are forced down our throats in order to make us all insecure and consume consume consume, it’s still nice to hear a compliment ^^