I usually agree with 100% of what this page does, but imagine how your mom feels? Like, I would imagine she adopted you guys in hopes that she’d at least feel connected to you guys as family despite the separation of race. It probably makes her uncomfortable speaking about it, and she probably understands how important it is to you. However, she might just want you to stop because she feels just as attacked.
Yes because white privilege includes never having to confront any uncomfortable parts of reality! And certainly as an adult it’s never your responsibility as a parent to do the hard work so that your kids can have their needs met. Oh wait, none of that is true! Now please shut the entire fuck up.
Listen, don’t fucking look for trouble going through the notes. It’s obvious that you did. Secondly, it was rebuttal to the asker, NOT YOU, and your dumb ass passive aggressive tone was not necessary. Finally, don’t fucking tell me about white privilege because I don’t have it, and as humans, everyone has to face with the uncomfortable parts of reality.Now get your special snowflake, angry about every thing in life, wanna-be activist ass OFF my blog.
Fuck you. Your bullshit prioritizing of the adult’s feelings over the child’s and your antiblack logic. I promise you I have no problem reading ignorant ill raised asshats like you for the filth that you are & apparently want to stay. You read the notes looking for trouble and now you’ve found it! Yaay! I hope you get everything in life that people as shitty as you deserve.
So… white adult gaslights their black adoptive child on matters of racism, and black adoptive child gets told to “just think about her feelings.”
That doesn’t sound like abusive dynamics at all.
…No wait. It does. And it is.
This is why I don’t trust white folks adopting poc children at all.
They do nothing to prepare themselves or their children for the realities of white supremacy and how it affects ALL LEVELS OF THEIR LIVES.
And then these children have literally no defenses against it. They often come out on that New Black mentality and when the racism finally comes around and slaps them in the face, they have no place for support.
Why blame the whole race or the whole community when the ones who is creating trouble is just the minority. Dont do that. Dont be that person. Those feelings of hate and angry might get you somewhere you wouldnt want to be in .
Because that’s essentially what social justice warriors on Tumblr do. They’d rather a kid not have a home at all than get adopted by a person of a different race because of things like this right here. There are quite a few of them who’d be happy to see all white people commit suicide, let me tell you. And if you’re a POC and don’t agree with them, you’re a traitor.
The both of you need to shut the fuck up. If you knew anything about the lives of transracial adoptees and fosterees you’d know that:
A) this white mother is typical, and it gets way worse as time goes on
B) because of the ignorance of white parents, the internet is one of the few places transracial adoptees/fosterees can have our voices heard
C) the ‘would you rather have been left in a ditch’ rhetoric is a myth used to shut down any criticism we have of white supremacy or the adoption industrial complex.
Before you continue spreading your ignorant opinions, do some fucking research. That doesn’t mean continue to read white parents’ pov or mistake anyone who disagrees with you and white supremacy as “sjws.” What it means is listen to/read any of the comments by actual transracial adoptees in the comments, read our blogs, fucking educate yourself or shut the fuck up.
This was a submission about a transracial adoptee feeling uncomfortable and attacked in her own home because her adoptive mother refuses to acknowledge racism and yet a bunch of whiny assholes are trying to shut her down because how dare she look to her mother for guidance and support. How are you even a fucking parent if you put your own feelings before your child’s?
oh my god, read the whole thread. this is EXACTLY the type of bullshit that transracial adoptees have to face ALL THE TIME. the adoptee is being real about the racism that she faces as a black adoptee and that her white mother ignores and the people telling her she should try to think about it from her adoptive mother’s point of view - so fucking infuriating. HOW ABOUT THE WHITE MOM SHOULD HAVE TO THINK ABOUT IT FROM HER POINT OF VIEW. oh wait, the impetus is on adoptees because we should be grateful that we were even adopted! it’s alllllll in there. perfect perfect thread of the bullshit we deal with.