Lol and now you’re trying tone police me? You don’t get to get away with spewing ignorant ass shit and then expecting no recourse from people who...
My friend is turning 30 next week, and his best friend is throwing him a surprise party. According to her, he’s having a bit of a hard time with...
so jinwoo and i were thinking to go to the states in august. looked up ticket prices - 5 million won for round trip for the two of us (i get reimbursed for one-way ticket to the states from my scholarship but i have to fly korean or asiana, which are both expensive). that’s just the airfare - not including the expenses while we’re there. we had planned on getting gifts for our parents (to give them after the wedding) while there. so ballpark would probably be 8 million won for the whole trip.
the wedding is going to cost us around 12 million won, even if we go the package route with the venue (which includes venue rental, flowers, dress, hair/make-up, day of photography), the venue itself (you saw it, it’s amazing!) is a bit on the pricey side and the cost for the food is separate and 40,000 won per head. then we are renting a bus for guests to take roundtrip from seoul to busan. and that 12 million won estimate is even with us skipping the pre-wedding photo shoot thingy that people like to do here.
the honeymoon is looking like at least 5 million won (airfare, housing, spending money)
someone give me 25 million won??? ugh. i hate money.
For those of you who don’t understand what that Korean law is about, specifically Korean labor law states that it cannot discriminate between the sexes and that sexual harassment is not allowed at the workplace. However this failed to protect workers, esp women, in this case in public services, so a law was made in addendum specficially discussing the issues of female workers in public services. That law still fails to address the part where if you don’t educate your workers about sexual harassment there is a penalty, which in the private sector you can be fined for.
I.e special law made specifically to address women’s issues in the public sector does not discuss the need to educate all workers about sexual harassment. That’s misogynistic as fuck and unrealistic.
Again whether these anti discrimination laws and harassment laws are enforced is a different story, and I think there was a highly publicized case where a Samsung employee filed her superior for harassment and was kicked out.
word-of-the-law-wise, these laws are all very nice.
the problem is that these laws have almost no import in real life. for example, take the minimum wage - not only is it too low, it’s rarely enforced.
it has been this way for a long, long time: when 전태일 lit himself on fire in 1970, the message was not some grand slogan like “power to labor” or “higher wages” - it was “observe the labor standard laws (근로기준법 준수하라)”
i think a part of this has to do with our colonial history. the ‘modern’ concept of a law is that it’s supposed to be drawn up by representatives of a republic’s citizenry in order to protect the citizens’ rights and interests. however in korea, a lot of the legal infrastructure (especially law enforcement) was imposed by the japanese, in order to subjugate and prosecute koreans - who didn’t count as real human beings.
some old-school korean activists (60 years or older) still use the term 헌병 or 순사(a rank used by the imperial japanese) instead of 경찰(police) as a reminder - both of our history and the fact that unless you’re rich and powerful, the law will never be on your side.
After a few years, my ex maid looked for her then 6/7yo child. For money. She pointedly told my relative that she has 0 intention to get to know the child, but she just wants my relative to “buy” that child from her because she needs money back then. The child whom I like to refer to as my cousin, was deeply hurt. So the way I see it, instead of forcing a mother who refuse to have connection with the child to keep the child, it’s less hurtful to leave the child with someone caring.
Finally, I want to clarify that I fully respect your opinions on the drop box. I just hope maybe you can take a look at it from another perspective. I feel that the idea of this is not to cut the ties between mothers and babies, but to give a new hope for ashamed mothers to live a new life, and for the babies to not… at least not sold? Or die in the cold… Sorry again if I offend you in any ways. (Anon C) - 3
sigh. where do i begin. this is an old message that i got when a bunch of people were messaging me about the baby box. i’m just getting around to answering, but i do hope this person is still reading.
i have never stated that women should be forced to raise children that they don’t want to raise. i do believe that mothers should have the right to choose adoption. but i have written time and again about how this word “choice” is a tricky one and i believe that unwed mothers in korea currently have little to no choice to raise their children.
i have also never said that i think the purpose of the baby box is to cut ties between mothers and their children. HOWEVER, whether or not that is the goal is not relevant because that is what it DOES. let me repeat that, regardless of the purpose - in reality, that is EXACTLY what it does. as to your suggestion that the baby box gives “a new hope for ashamed mothers to live a new life” - i say i’m all for mothers having the right to live a new life without shame. but that right DOES NOT and will NEVER trump the child’s basic right to their birth information. PERIOD. the baby box takes that right away from the child. PERIOD. mothers who choose adoption should by all means have the chance to live without shame - AFTER they fulfill the proper requirements to ensure an ethical adoption for their child. that is a minimum requirement, people.
as to your suggestion that if not for the babybox, the child would get sold or die in the cold, i say 1) what do you think adoption agencies are doing when they send children for adoption? do you think they are doing it out of the kindness of their hearts for free? adoption agencies have a history of exploiting vulnerable families in order to send children for adoption. they also have a history of negligently sending children who were lost (not orphans) and/or purposefully falsifying records in order to make children orphans so they could send for adoption. now, why do you think they do that? here’s a list of salaries for adoption agency executives. now tell me that those babies are not being sold. 2) the idea that if not for the babybox these babies would be abandoned on the street - i’ve written about it before here, but i’ll say it again: mothers who leave their children in a babybox clearly exhibit that they understand that abandoning babies on the road to die is wrong by the very fact that they’ve chosen to go to the babybox and not abandon in the street. assuming that if the babybox was not there, they would abandon them on the side of the road is faulty logic. by the same logic alone, it is just as reasonable to assume that if the babybox was not there, they would go one step further (not one step back) and ensure the baby is adopted ethically (which the babybox does not allow for). having worked extensively with unwed mothers in korea (as well as women who lost their children by adoption - almost always through coercion or force) i can say with confidence that the babybox simply provides a moral grey space for mothers who would otherwise give up for ethical adoption or choose to raise their child (if economic and social support were available). even worse, creates a situation (like mine), when people who are not the mother (or father) can give up for adoption.
ummm sorry, i have no idea what this is about? was something supposed to come up when i copy and pasted that?
ETA: ok i found it here. ummm yea because two actors declined it apparently that means they tried hard enough. typical ridiculous justification from people who want to defend whitewashing. because clearly there are only two men of the correct ethnicity IN THE ENTIRE WORLD who could play that role. what a joke. of course they could’ve held auditions and made real effort to find an actor of that ethnicity in order to properly represent the character. and of course they would’ve found someone perfectly capable to play the part. but they didn’t make the effort. and the public accepts it and even if there is an outcry, most of the general public will be like the idiot from the link you sent and defend this ridiculous whitewashing.
oh my gooooooood. i am a genius. i fixed it. I FIXED IT! it only took me two hours but i motherfucking fixed it. jinwoo the engineer couldn’t fix it but I FIXED IT~~ (to be fair, he wasn’t really that invested in fixing it)
Google search the problem. I’ve solved a lot of Macbook issues this way.
yea that’s what i’ve been doing for the past hour and a half (i certainly didn’t come up with the paper-folding and other ideas, i’m not that creative!) i hate everything.
whyyyyy does my mouse hate me? why does it never work. i bought brand new batteries, still no go. i carefully fit paper inside it because after an internet search people said the batteries are too small. no dice. apple i hate you. really. just wasted like an hour that i should’ve been editing my thesis. still doesn’t work.