Birth certificates shouldn’t even be legal parenting documents. The birth certificate should document the actual facts - the child’s name at birth, child’s natural parents, correct date, time, and place of birth. At the same time the birth certificate is issued, a legal parenting paper can also be issues detailing who has legal responsibility for the child and to what extent.
It should be like England where there can be more than two. Parents would show the birth certificate for proof of identity for the child and the legal parenting certificate for proof of legal responsibility. Then, if anything happens, like adoption or permanent guardianship, the document can be easily amended and re-issued. In the case of temporary or permanent foster care, the State already has something similar that could continue to be used - court orders.
This would make it a) harder to lie to adoptees, though some still manage it even in places where the birth certificate isn’t changed (though it is temporarily sealed) and an adoption certificate is instead issued and b) more truthful (and also less aggravating for genealogists - a lot of genealogy is now incorrect because of sealed and amended birth certificates).
Then, if the adult adoptee doesn’t want a birth certificate with their natural parents’ names on it, because they find that painful to deal with, they can get a short version that doesn’t have the names of the parents listed because who your parents are supposedly ceases to matter upon adulthood (unless you ask them to correct your birth certificate to show your natural parents, then it matters a lot!).
And any changes in the parenting document should be available for the adult to look at, because it’s their information and because some people want to know everyone who raised them and perhaps might want to look them up and contact them. I know I’d contact my ex foster parents, if they weren’t a bazillion years old, probably very into the “oh you’re adopted HOW WONDERFUL!” thing, and hadn’t helped farm out over 100 babies during their “career”/they probably don’t remember me.
Don’t ask me how to deal with name changes requested by adoptive parents, ‘cause I vehemently disagree with it. If I were supreme ruler, I’d say absolutely no changing of legal names until the child is old enough to consent/ask for it. Woo, then there’s a place for sealing and amending.
So, anyways, those are my thoughts.
Make it so.
A ship sunk in the southwestern coast of South Korea this morning. It was carrying 450 people and 325 of them being students who were on their way to a field trip to a nearby island. Fortunately, no one has been reported missing or hurt or dead. They’re all just waiting to be rescued. Please, let’s keep them in our prayers. These kids must be scared out of their minds.
So far, 164 people saved, 2 dead, and 293 people still missing. I hope they all return to their homes.
update: 164 saved, 291 missing, 4 deceased
so, so sad.
taken from one of my grad school seonbae’s kakao story, short poems by ha sang-wook. too funny: