Tales of Wonderlost

I'm a Korean-American adoptee living in Seoul, just finished my MA in Anthropology (yes, i took all of my classes in Korean TT). In my spare time, I volunteer at two great organizations: Korean Unwed Mothers' Families Association (KUMFA) and the Women's Global Solidarity Action Network (WGSAN) - a group that works on various issues, including with the survivors of military sexual slavery during WWII ("Comfort Women"). I also love cooking and baking and going to the noraebang ^^ To make a monthly donation to the Korean Unwed Mothers' Families Association, please click below!! (You can also make a 1-time donation)
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inthepocketofherraincoat:

Birth certificates shouldn’t even be legal parenting documents. The birth certificate should document the actual facts - the child’s name at birth, child’s natural parents, correct date, time, and place of birth. At the same time the birth certificate is issued, a legal parenting paper can also be issues detailing who has legal responsibility for the child and to what extent.

It should be like England where there can be more than two. Parents would show the birth certificate for proof of identity for the child and the legal parenting certificate for proof of legal responsibility. Then, if anything happens, like adoption or permanent guardianship, the document can be easily amended and re-issued. In the case of temporary or permanent foster care, the State already has something similar that could continue to be used - court orders.

This would make it a) harder to lie to adoptees, though some still manage it even in places where the birth certificate isn’t changed (though it is temporarily sealed) and an adoption certificate is instead issued and b) more truthful (and also less aggravating for genealogists - a lot of genealogy is now incorrect because of sealed and amended birth certificates).

Then, if the adult adoptee doesn’t want a birth certificate with their natural parents’ names on it, because they find that painful to deal with, they can get a short version that doesn’t have the names of the parents listed because who your parents are supposedly ceases to matter upon adulthood (unless you ask them to correct your birth certificate to show your natural parents, then it matters a lot!).

And any changes in the parenting document should be available for the adult to look at, because it’s their information and because some people want to know everyone who raised them and perhaps might want to look them up and contact them. I know I’d contact my ex foster parents, if they weren’t a bazillion years old, probably very into the “oh you’re adopted HOW WONDERFUL!” thing, and hadn’t helped farm out over 100 babies during their “career”/they probably don’t remember me.

Don’t ask me how to deal with name changes requested by adoptive parents, ‘cause I vehemently disagree with it. If I were supreme ruler, I’d say absolutely no changing of legal names until the child is old enough to consent/ask for it. Woo, then there’s a place for sealing and amending.

So, anyways, those are my thoughts.

Make it so.

via @mediamongu: 세월호가 목포해양경찰서에 긴급 구조를 요청하자 민간 어선 20여 척이 긴급 구조 신호를 듣고 조업을 중단한 채 즉시 침몰 현장으로 향했다고. 모든 국민들의 마음이겠죠. 그저 두손 놓고 생존자가 있기를. 부디 잠들지 말기를. 바라고 또 바랄 뿐입니다.

해양경찰청에서 제공해 준 세월호 승객 구조 영상을 보고 있습니다.뉴스에 나오지 않는 위험을 무릅 쓴 장면들이 많네요.거친 물살을 헤치며 구조현장으로 헤엄쳐 가는 모든 구조대원들의 노고를 잊지 않겠습니다. http://t.co/CDrOQomB3x

heartbreaking. a five year old girl was rescued by fellow passengers, including a few high school girls and a 59 year old man, but her parents are still missing.

(목포=연합뉴스) 특별취재팀 = 290여명의 실종자가 발생한 세월호 침몰 사고 현장에서 승객들이 힘을 합쳐 5살 여자아이를 무사히 구조한 것으로 알려졌다.

16일 세월호 3등칸 플로어룸에 묵었던 승객들은 배가 침몰할 당시 부모를 잃고 혼자 있는 권모(5)양을 발견했다.

권양은 두려움에 눈물도 흘리지 못하고 온몸을 부들부들 떨고 있었다.

승객 김모(59)씨와 일행 4명은 망설임 없이 권양을 안고 기울어진 배를 오르기 시작했다.

배가 급격히 기울면서 바닥에 떨어지며 머리를 다친 김씨는 애를 구해야겠다는 생각뿐이었다고 당시를 기억했다.

김씨 일행은 서로 밀고 당기며 권양을 위로 밀어올렸다.

김씨는 “눈에 보이는 건 모두 잡고 올라갔다”며 “혼자서는 절대 못 올라갈 높이여서 일행이 없었다면 살기 어려웠다”고 기억을 더듬었다.

바닥에는 물이 차오르는 소리가 들려왔고 옆으로는 고통을 호소하는 소리로 아수라장이었다.

김씨 일행은 “애 어딨어 애 찾아”라며 끝까지 권양을 보호했다.

세월호 폭이 22m인 것을 고려했을 때 이들은 20m 이상을 올라간 것이다.

마지막에는 수학여행을 온 여고생들도 힘을 보탰다.

김씨 일행이 20여m를 올라왔을 때 여고생들이 권양을 끌어올렸다.

한 여고생은 두려움에 떠는 권양을 꼭 안고 구조를 기다렸다.

이들의 도움으로 권양은 이날 정오께 무사히 목포한국병원으로 옮겨졌다.

큰 부상은 없지만 현재 심리적으로 매우 불안한 상태인 것으로 알려졌다.

병원 한 관계자는 “권양이 지금 몹시 불안한 상태여서 외래 간호사의 보호 아래 안정을 취하고 있다”고 말했다.

그러나 권양이 구조된지 9시간이 넘었지만 권양의 부모는 아직까지 연락이 닿지 않고 있어 병원 관계자들의 마음을 아프게 하고 있다.

김씨는 “애기를 무사히 구조한 건 다행이지만 아직 부모와 연락이 닿지 않고 있어 마음이 아프다”며 “당시 서로 밀고 당기며 힘을 보태서 모두 무사할 수 있었다”고 말했다.

lostintrafficlights:

niqabisinparis:

A ship sunk in the southwestern coast of South Korea this morning. It was carrying 450 people and 325 of them being students who were on their way to a field trip to a nearby island. Fortunately, no one has been reported missing or hurt or dead….

update: 10 more survivors have been found.

currently: 174 saved, 284 missing, 4 deceased.

침몰 배에서 단원고 학생 “엄마, 말 못할까봐 문자 보내…사랑해”…다행히 해경에 구조

"엄마 내가 말 못할까봐 보내놓는다 사랑한다" ㅠㅠㅠㅠ

http://m.khan.co.kr/view.html?artid=201404161639551&code=940100

lostintrafficlights:

niqabisinparis:

A ship sunk in the southwestern coast of South Korea this morning. It was carrying 450 people and 325 of them being students who were on their way to a field trip to a nearby island. Fortunately, no one has been reported missing or hurt or dead. They’re all just waiting to be rescued. Please, let’s keep them in our prayers. These kids must be scared out of their minds. 

So far, 164 people saved, 2 dead, and 293 people still missing. I hope they all return to their homes.

update: 164 saved, 291 missing, 4 deceased

so, so sad.

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indielibrary:

I talk out loud like you’re still around

i went through a period when i listened to this album on repeat. and then i somehow totally forgot that it existed. this is apparently the guy from the movie rushmore. 

(via char-redtoast)

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taken from one of my grad school seonbae’s kakao story, short poems by ha sang-wook. too funny:



연락하지
않겠다고
다짐하고
다짐해도
ㅡ하상욱 시집 ‘야식집’ㅡ


어딜

거니
ㅡ하상욱 시집 ‘리모콘’ㅡ

이거
받자고
내가
그동안
ㅡ하상욱 시집 ‘적립포인트’ㅡ

알고
보면
다들
딱히
ㅡ하상욱 시집 ‘불금’ㅡ

이게
뭐라고
이리
힘들까
ㅡ하상욱 시집 ‘메뉴선택’ㅡ

꼴보기
싫은데
빼기도
그렇고
ㅡ하상욱 시집 ‘복점’ㅡ

지켜
준다더니
아껴
준다더니
ㅡ하상욱 시집 ‘개인정보’ㅡ

해야
되는데
해야
했는데
ㅡ하상욱 시집 ‘효도’ㅡ

되찾은
내모습
ㅡ하상욱 시집 ‘요요현상’ㅡ

늘고마운
당신인데
바보처럼
짜증내요
ㅡ하상욱 시집 ‘알람’ㅡ

잘못된
선택
뒤늦은
후회
ㅡ하상욱 시집 ‘내앞자리만 안내림’ ㅡ

so jinwoo had dinner and drinks with two of his old coworkers last night. and on his way home, i asked him to pick up some chocolate because i was up to my neck in editing and needed the chocolate release. this is the result of me asking jinwoo not to buy ghana chocolate but “something delicious” - he said he bought one of everything at the convenience store but the ghana, hahahahaha.