From paternal grandmother: “This is Lisa, she’s our adopted granddaughter; and this is Tammy, she’s the blood grandchild.”
1. You cost $900; I’m not sure you were worth it. 2. If we didn’t adopt you, you would have ended up on the street. 3. No one wants to eat that gook food. 4. You can’t have (certain family heirloom), he wasn’t really your grandpa.
"That’s your heritage coming out in you" in reference to perceived negative behavior. & "We already did our charity when we got you."
I was 6 and wanted to donate to PBS/Sesame Street.
"We always knew we would get the blond haired, blue eyed child someday…", "I always wanted an Oriental daughter and I got one.", "Can we get one that looks like you?" (from a prospective adoptive parent after I taught a workshop on transracial adoption), "It doesn’t matter if your [adoption] papers were doctored, just imagine where you would be if they hadn’t?"
"if we didn’t adopt you you’d probably be a prostitute or working in the rice fields" - Things my mom said to me. I’m so glad my dad wasn’t anything like that.